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Mary: A Humble Heart

May 28, 2010

Welcome back for the last post in a my series With Child: Meditations on the Meaning of Motherhood. If you missed the previous posts, you can catch up by reading about Sarah, HagarRebekahJochebedHannahThe Widow of Zarephath, and Elizabeth. Thank you for joining me as I study the mothers of the Bible and discover what lessons can be learned from their lives.

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If ever there was an inconvenient pregnancy, it was Mary’s. Her pregnancy was not only miraculous; it put her in a tenuous situation. As a virgin engaged to be married—worse case scenario—Mary could have been stoned to death.

There’s so much I wonder about. What did her parents say? When she went away to visit Elizabeth for three months and came back starting to show how did she deal with the gossip? Did she remain silent or did she share the angel’s message? Was she laughed at and ridiculed? After all, even her betrothed, Joseph didn’t believe her story at first.

I wish I knew the details. But what I do know is that Mary did not bring up these potential challenges and fears to the angel who visited her that miraculous day, although they must have come crashing into her mind the minute the angel told her she’d conceive a child.

What she did blurt out was, “How will this be, since I am a virgin?”

After receiving Gabriel’s answer, she responds with incredible humility:

“I am the Lord’s servant. May it be to me as you have said.”

John MacArthur writes about Mary’s response in Twelve Extraordinary Women: “There’s no evidence that Mary ever brooded over the effects her pregnancy would have on her reputation. She instantly, humbly, and joyfully submitted to God’s will without further doubt or question. She could hardly have had a more godly response to the announcement of Jesus’ birth. It demonstrated that she was a young woman of mature faith and one who was a worshiper of the true God.”

How I long to respond to the inconveniences in my life like Mary. I am the Lord’s servant. May it be to me as you have said.

Motherhood is all about inconvenience. The physical discomfort of a swelling body is just the beginning. Then comes the intensity of labor. The late night feedings. The reality that one’s life really isn’t one’s own anymore. Of course, joy is experienced in every one of those situations, but sometimes, it’s also just plain inconvenient.

Even the smallest inconvenience can sometimes send me for a tailspin. In the midst of writing this very post, my boys woke up much earlier than usual from their naps, crying. My natural tendency is not to be happy to see them when interrupted like that. This is my time, after all. They’re invading it. They’re, well, inconvenient. My mother’s heart does not naturally desire to sacrifice for them. I don’t want to give up the time that I thought was allotted to me.

For Mary, the high honor of being the mother of the Jesus came with inconveniences that would culminate in great suffering. Gien Karssen puts it this way: “She was being given the opportunity to subject her motherly desires to the will of God.”

She did this by giving birth in a stable. Fleeing to Egypt while toddlers were slain by order of royal edict, because king was looking for her son (can you imagine living with that knowledge?). Having Jesus leave his family after 30 years to accomplish his earthly ministry and not have access to him as she had before. Experiencing the pain of family turmoil at having her other sons not believe Jesus was the Christ. And then the ultimate pain of seeing her son crucified. Indeed, the sword would pierce her side, just as Simeon prophesied.

But her example in all of this was one of humility. Of being aware the story wasn’t really about her in the first place. It was about Him. And this is not more evident than in the fact that Mary herself was a disciple of Christ.

Gien Karssen recaps Mary’s life beautifully when she writes that Mary experienced “unknown pinnacles of happiness. At the same time she had experienced deep heart sorrows which no other woman has or ever will encounter. But her attitude toward God hadn’t changed. She had proven with her life that she meant the words she spoke when the Messiah was announced, ‘I am the Lord’s servant, and I will do whatever He desires.’”

May that be my humble response too—not only in motherhood—but in all of life.

Since this is the final post in this series, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Did you find it beneficial or encouraging? Please share in the comments section.

10 Comments leave one →
  1. May 28, 2010 2:48 pm

    I really liked this series, and this was my favorite post in it. It really hit home with me.

  2. May 28, 2010 8:05 pm

    as a non-mother, i can not relate all that much. but i can relate to the last two paragraphs.

    this was a good series… i caught the tail end. but a very important series, i think. i think it could/should be a book. would make a wonderful gift for new mothers.

  3. May 30, 2010 7:46 am

    Thanks guys, glad you enjoyed it! And Georgia, new mothers are who I had in mind, while writing this, really. I looked for something like this when pregnant the first time and found nothing.

  4. June 2, 2010 10:26 am

    beautiful, Danielle! I agree, it would make such a lovely collection of encouragement and challenge/inspiration, for new moms and not-so-new ones too.

  5. June 2, 2010 4:12 pm

    This one is a good one, Danielle. I really appreciate seeing Mary beyond being Jesus’ mother to being a woman in her own right, a woman who chose God, whose life was all about Him. It is not a perspective I have considered before.

    You really ought to look into expanding this series and getting it published as a book, dear.

  6. June 3, 2010 3:43 pm

    I have enjoyed the series, especially this last one. Before becoming a mother I couldn’t really appreciate what it may have been like for Mary. As you say, motherhood is at times just plain inconvenient. I have these thoughts about the baby I wanted and planned for, I am amazed and challenged by Mary’s willingness to put herself aside for the baby she didn’t plan for.

  7. June 5, 2010 7:06 pm

    The inconvenience you spoke about hit home for me. With three children home & being pregnant with my 4th I revel in my time. I anticipate it from the moment I wake up and savor it while it’s there. Your post helped me to see just how much grumbling and complaining I do when my children mess us my plans. Instead, I need to remember what a blessing it is that I’m with them each day and that this will not last forever. Loved the series Danielle!


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